STR8 TALK: 8 REASONS TO DATE A WHITE MAN….LATINA’S P.O.V.
1. “They open wide instead of down low”-That’s a load of crap. White men are just as likely to be down low as black men. This idea and stereotype feeds into the hype and histeria about black men being down low and less of them as being available to single women.
2. “Not looking for someone to take care of them”- I don’t know the statistics on White men vs. Black men coming from more stable family structures…but from my personal experience most of the black men I’ve dating were constantly looking for a chick to care of them. Guess that explains why I’m no longer with them.
3. “Attend and graduate from college”- Well this I agree with…White men are more likely to be college educated than black men. I’m not sure if the same can be said for Latino men, since Latinos are attending and graduating college at a higher rate than before. Not to mention this new statistics about black males doing worse than bad in the education system is just horrible news.
4. “At least attempt to marry before making babies”- I disagree with this reason. Just because it’s noticed that White men don’t have children sprinkled all the over the place, doesn’t mean they didn’t impregnate a chick. There’s a little thing called abortion.
5. “They don’t glamourize ignorance”- The Madame Noire article states: “They may listen to rap music, but they are smart enough not to act it out. The “thug life” is not something to be aspired. White men have a firmer grasp on what really defines manhood.” But ignorance doesn’t just lie within rap music. There are other forms of ignorance that some white men adhere to. Not agreeing with this claim as it’s just too general of a statement.
6. “Financial planning and stability”- I totally agree with this one. White men or rather white culture are just more educated in spending their money. Rather than looking to “Floss” like most men in the black and latino community…white men are just far more interested in being wealthy than appearing wealthy. There’s a big difference.
7. “Have the ability to look beyond your past”- Another general statement. This has nothing to do with race but rather the individual itself. Claiming that white men have no problem turning a “hoe into a house wife” is just dead wrong. How do you explain these rappers wifin’ up “former” strippers? C’mon…this has nothing to do with race.
8. “Don’t take everything as a challenge to their masculinity”- I couldn’t disagree more. Whether black, white, latino…men who feel insecure or intimated by strong educated women (black, white, latina) has more to do with their own lack of self esteem and own personal weakness. Some men are just aren’t strong enough to handle a strong woman and that’s their loss. #REALTALK
Totally agree with your assessments. As I get older I am finding myself looking for more stability and sadly not looking within my own culture. There are differences with relating to my background, but overall I find everything else is th…e same as dating “my own kind”. Main difference is, a non-Spanish or black male meets my expectations of what I want out of the future. Folks may disagree with me, and I know there may be good Spanish or black men out there, but I haven’t found one yet, and I’m not wasting time.
by: MsVazZ, Nov 10th at 1:14 pm
i feel like panels like this force women to stray from the love of a black or latin man,
give up on ur own to go to a white man, well more power to you women who keep on complaining about the bad apples instead of embracing the good ones that are left.
by: poeticandfreaky, Nov 10th at 7:57 pm
@poeticandfreaky thanks for the comment, but you totally missed the point of the panel, the article, and this post. it’s not about “complaining about the bad apples and embracing the good ones that are left”..but rather trying to understand why more black and latino men can’t better themselves to partner up with a woman of value, integrity, strength and intelligence. It’s about “going to a white man”…but just addressing the problem and a call to action for the black and latin community. There is a problem with our black and latino men, and you can’t deny that. #imjustsayin
by: LexAve, Nov 10th at 10:48 pm